Having a conversation about end of life care may not be easy, but your senior loved one will be grateful. While it’s no one’s favorite topic, discussing end of life care early on instead of waiting is a great idea. Allowing your senior to define their wishes while they are currently able to do so will help to make sure they are honored if and when the time comes for their end of life care.
Read through our tips below on how to best prepare for the conversation.
Make Time and Give Space
Don’t rush or force the conversation about end of life care. Take the time to plan it out with your loved one. Do they want the whole family to be a part of it? Is a quiet, secure place best for them discuss it? After you have chosen a time and location and invited all members involved, make sure there will be nothing in the room to distract from the conversation. Remind all attendees to turn off their cellphones so they can be as present and attentive as possible.
Listen to Them Carefully
Although you may have initiated this discussion about end of life care, remember that this is completely about your senior’s wishes and preferences – Not yours. If you do not agree with one of their wishes, or you have a different idea, calmly express it. However, if your senior insists on their wishes, do not push them. You are there to listen to their wishes and to make sure they will be honored during their end of life care.
Write Things Down
As your senior is expressing their end of life care preferences, write them down. You will want to be sure to note any and all details, no matter how big or small they may seem. Your notes will come in handy after the conversation, when we suggest meeting with an attorney to put together an advanced directive. These are a collection of documents that will help to legally outline your senior’s end of life care wishes and see that they are carried out.
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